I woke up with background noise and opened one eye to see Virat Kohli on television talking to journalists. Apart from the eye candy that he is, what actually caught my interest was what he was saying . He was apparently defending MS Dhoni’s position in the Indian team when a guy asked him why he was being kept in the team since he was not performing so well . Virat, in his usual no nonsense demeanor, shut the guy off by saying that you are the same people who praise him to heights when he hits a six -showing several reruns of the same -so why question his ability now (?)! He knows his form the best and is doing great -dismissing the journalist and the question with just the right conduct not sounding arrogant at all!
I always wonder how the celebrities handle the pressure of delivering success after success may it be movies,personal life,cricket even raising their kids ,absolutely anything, which catches the public eye !
Performing 100 percent of their capability is one thing and then getting a 100 percent success in all endeavors almost impossible since it even defies the simple law of probability!
Apart from the surreal world of stardom and celebs, I feel, this applies to the our relationships as well .
Does it not happen that we do everything we can in our capacity to bring joy to our loved ones around but one -just one- miss and everyone remembers where you lacked and not the zillion times that u delivered.
How easy is it for us to question the sincerity of others the moment they fall short of our expectations!
The moment we start to expect, we create a preset notion of joy that’ll come our way . so,even if what we receive is higher, just because we had a standard in mind that it may not fit in, we don’t experience happiness.
Expectations from others and what we do are two parallel thin lines drawn together and we must aim to merge them as closely as possible.
On a more profound level ,what we expect from others let’s do that ourselves first . Let us put our 100 percent in everything we do and then raise fingers. A reality check comes when we look within and introspect.
Let’s give margin to others as we would want for ourselves! Learn to “accept” the vagaries of people keeping in mind the regular humdrum and vicissitudes of life rather than “expect” them to act in accordance with the preset notion of norms imbibed in our mind.
So when a friend doesn’t call for a while , why should I complain to her when I bump into her at a party. Why not pick up the phone and just call merely on the whim that I wanted to talk to her!
When my work suffers vis-a-vis my social life on an upswing, I don’t push the blame onto other factors like incompetence of my staff , or other external factors. I just realize and then know where to draw the line.
If I am aiming at improving upon myself as a human being each day rather than in competition with the world, the expectations won’t matter.
As I learn to “accept” I will forget to “expect”!